I'm upset, yes. Angry, yes. Unhappy, YES. And the reason is simple: Ochanya's life was stolen for selfish reasons.

I couldn't sleep. At first I refused to read the story; I didn't want anything to disturb my peace. But when I heard all the disgusting details about my friend, my heart just sank.

So, Ochanya was a girl who could not continue studying in her community because the schools were on strike and the teachers were not paid. Her mother, desperate for her to receive an education, sent her to her aunt's house to stay and continue her studies. The girl stayed there and went to school. His mother wanted to give this boy an education at all costs for a better future, I guess, but things didn't go as planned.

aunt's son he raped her. Ochanya reported the problem to the aunt, and the aunt simply scolded her son and that was it. Fair scolded him. The son continued to rape this girl. One day, his sister found him and told his father. the father, instead of informing the authorities—something his wife had not done either—began to rape the girl himself. The father and son then continued to rape her. together.

Father and son, simultaneously, FIVE YEARS.

The girl continued to get sicker and sicker until she developed Vesicovaginal fistula (VVF) and was taken to the hospital. That's when the whole rotten affair finally came to light. The hospital started asking questions about how a child could have VVF. A month before she died, the girl told her mother that her uncle and his son had been raping her, and that they both did it at the same time: father and son. She was even interviewed and the abuse was confirmed.

However, the court said that they had little evidence At that time. So they imprisoned the aunt for five pathetic months. They couldn't find the son and the husband left. free.

The case returned to public attention this year because parents used social media as a tool to cry out: how could they have peace? How is it possible that two adults, a father and a son, kill their daughter and they walk freely in society? Now the case has been reopened and the public is joining the police in searching for the boy. These people sexually abused this. 13-year-old girl until her death.

the aunt, Felicia Ochiga Obuja, knew Her husband and son were doing this, but they were silent. He wanted to protect his marriage and his son. I wanted to stay married no matter what it cost. These are the stupid ideologies that are sold to women: that marriage is everything. And they ran with him, covering the evil. But thank God there is a God, and heaven is far from people who do these things.

I tell people one thing: a person who cheats lacks discipline. Cheating is like doing cocaine; The person becomes addicted and wants more. It starts with having sex with the opposite sex, and then they want to have children, then they want more and more of this nonsense. But somehow people keep partners who cheat on their children and think their children are safe. NO! Your child is not safe with an unfaithful partner. The only thing a cheater thinks about is sex, sex, sex. I'm in the medical line and you hear different nonsense coming out of people's mouths, especially men.

These men who killed the child are people known for cheating. She was related to them, she was family, but they took her life.

Imagine the daughter of that house reporting to the father and he did nothing. Now, think deeply: did the father and brother also try to sexually assault their own daughter? Because because of the family dynamics, it seems that this is a good pattern for them.

In today's society, men have caused many atrocities. It doesn't mean that women are not committing crimes, but the desires of men to marry younger, I mean girls who are not at the age… the desire to touch children… It's crazy!

Do you know why some of these victims don't receive justice? it's because the people in power are equally guilty. It is because the police officer at the police station has the same desires and wants to do it to another young woman. It is because the male figure handling the case sees it as “it's just sex” and these problems continue to happen.

There have been reports of women being killed by police officers for not agreeing to have a relationship with them or wanting to date them. I mean, are these the people who are supposed to protect us? Do you know how many families have daughters who have children for their own parents and brothers, and the mother will force them to lie and say that the girl was promiscuous?

Do you know how many girls have died from abortions performed at home by their own parents, because the parents were trying to bury secrets? And then you hear news like “The girl died due to an abortion.” I have heard stories of girls saying that they told their mother that their fathers were sexually assault them, and their mother told them to their faces, “It's your father. It's better for him to do it at home than go out.” There have also been cases of girls who go to their mothers to denounce their fathers and brothers, and the mother silences them, even seeing the little girl as a threat and mistreating her.

Look how evil people are!!!!

They took Ochanya's life. I wonder how it felt to be raped by a father and son for years at the same time…helpless, sad, wondering when this would end. Perhaps he told his mother that he wanted to return home, but the mother, wanting a better life for the child, told him: “Just finish your education and you can go home.” But she never came home.

Recently there was another case of a father who raped his two daughters. I don't remember their ages, but they were both under six years old. According to the news, he even told his wife that he can't report him, that he knows she will try to protect their marriage, and that was recorded. When they caught him, he started pretending. Look, you men who desire to have children, you will go blind. Judgment will come upon you. You will meet death early in your life. Do you think it's okay to take away their childhood?

Let's not even get started on the devilish religions that think you can marry off a girl as young as six and that it's okay. Let's not even get started on religions that openly promote the rape of children in the form of marriage. Let's not even get started on those religions where men are obsessed with children.

If I have learned anything in my life it is that some fathers do not train men. Let me repeat it again: PARENTS DO NOT TRAIN MEN. When I was a child, I was taught to sweep, to sit, to do this and that. They pretty much told me I had to act a certain way and carry myself a certain way. But I noticed that my cousins, brothers and male friends were not taught the same thing. They would play soccer in the field after school and come home late, and you hear comments like, “They are boys, they will become men and they will be providers.”

Men who were not taught to control their desires, who were not taught to no is no and silence does not mean yes… and if yes is not clear, it is no. Yes is not yes and even yes is not yes until it is confirmed that it is. Children become emotional bullies and ruin marriages left and right. Men are the ones who ruin marriages the most. Most of them lack discipline. They think that life is about their needs.

Many fathers failed many men. If you don't train them, society will put a leash on them and it won't be what you expect. Does your child do wrong? Correct them and be strong in your correction. Stay firm. Your son misbehaves and you keep saying: “Honey, please stop.” What meaningless joke about education are you making? You are raising a child who will become a social bully. The foundation starts from your education. And I know that people will still choose their path in life, but it is necessary to educate the child in the path he should follow, and when he is old, he will not deviate from it.

Stop raping and sexually assaulting children, men. Stop wanting to have children. Stop, stop, stop, stop, stop! They will catch you. And those demanding, foolish and selfish women who cover up this evil will catch you too. Do you want to stay married while a child suffers? Do you want to answer “married woman” while a child's future and life are taken away from you?

You have a relative or a son who stays with you, or your own daughter, I don't care if you trust your husband, your friend, your partner or your boyfriend…Ask that child, “Did this person touch any of your sexual parts? If they did, tell me.” Adult women and girls are not safe in their homes. 9 out of 10 girls have been sexually abused; they are sexually abused, and it is mainly men.

Brutal laws have not been passed. These are the laws that countries should pass! Drugs are equivalent to the death penalty in some countries, but when a child is raped, what do you do?

There is something called jungle justice in Nigeria, something I don't support, but sometimes, the way things happen, you just wish these types of men would get justice in the jungle. Because why would you and your son want a girl and rape her to death? BECAUSE?

Elizabeth Ochanya Ogbanje deserves justice.

• They sent her to stay with her uncle, andres ogbuja (polytechnic professor) and his son, Victor Ogbuja.

• Andrew Ogbuja was charged with rape and causing death, but was later released and acquitted by a state high court for lack of sufficient evidence to prove the case beyond a reasonable doubt.

• Felicia Ochiga Obuja She is the wife who covered up what happened.

We want justice for this child. It could be any child. She deserves justice.

Yesterday, the family, namely Ochanya's brother, continued their active campaign for justice, urging the First Lady and the Inspector General of Police to bring the alleged rapists to justice and declare their son, Victor Ogbuja, wanted.

So before you take your child to an unnecessary sleepover, before you send him or her to that aunt's house for the holidays, before you trust your child into someone else's hands…pause and think.