I can't stop thinking about this. I have tried to look at it from all angles to understand why some people behave as they do. The human brain is incredibly complex, I know, but it seems that I can't understand why things like that happen. This attitude, in particular, is something that really bothers me. It is a problem that affects us all in some way: some of us have to tolerate it, some of us are the ones who give this attitude, and some of us are the ones who finally decide to stop.
Why are there people who, regardless of what you do for them, never seem to appreciate it? The more you do, whether they have asked you or simply being useful, they make you feel silly. They respond with a kind of silent attitude that stinks.
I have had my part of these experiences, and I have decided to stop tolerating it. This type of behavior can be found in any relationship, with friends, family or spouses. But from my experience and the stories I have heard, often comes from family, close friends and loved ones. This is what really bothers me: why do some people feel more with the right to help them? Why, for the good of Christ?
They never appreciate what you do for them. But at the time you stop, maybe because you no longer have the time or resources to give, they get angry. They stop communicating. Suddenly, you are the bad boy. For them, it's what they can get. They don't care about the effort or sacrifice you put; It's just take, take, take. They never return. It is irritating and a truly poor way of behaving.
I remember a story that a woman shared online about helping her family. He was single at that time and would help his sister leaving his children at school. He was working, but used all his free time to be an aunt involved. He even helped with family finances and bought a car from his mother. But he realized that the more he helped, the more his family seemed to resent. There was no appreciation, and the worst part was the subtle and revolted “thanks” that made her feel so stupid. This woman made so much that she actually caused her family, and especially her sister, whose children helped Nanny, to hate her. I could feel how injured this woman is in that video. She said something that caught my attention. She said some people wish they were you. They want you not to have what you have. Instead of appreciating it, they envy it in their hearts and cannot hide it for a long time, regardless of how friendly it is for them.
I was surprised. I owed nothing to this person. I had been helping them for more than four years, and the only time I could not meet their expectations, they called me tacilized. I was just doing it for the goodness of my heart. And last week, I obtained the same attitude of another person he was helping. It is not even about the “thank you” for me; Honestly, I don't care that. It is the subtle attitude of law that really comes to me.
The hard truth about the right
This behavior, where people feel entitled to their help and get angry when they stop giving, is often due to the lack of emotional maturity and empathy. The people who behave in this way are selfish, and if the tables turn, they would not help anyone. They see their generosity not as a gift, but as an obligation. Over time, your kindness becomes an expected part of your lives, and lose sight of the fact that it is a choice that you are doing, not a duty that owes them.
I have experienced this several times with different people, and I will not allow it to happen again. I have decided to cut from each of them, so I decided to share this. I apologize if dreaming angry in this publication, but I'm really.
I learned that you must stop giving those who do not appreciate and minimize your help. You know the truth: it is incredibly difficult to tell yourself: “I will ignore this behavior whatever happens.”
I have decided to stop helping these types of people because they make me feel that I am their servant or raised. You call to confirm a detail, and you will not return the call to confirm that you received what you sent. They will simply send an answer and leave. It is as if you were not only giving them something; You are also struggling to get their attention, even to confirm that they have received what they asked.
On another occasion, someone requested my help, and although I was not in the right position at that time, I still made a priority help them. A week later, they wrote me again, requesting more help. I was surprised.
Another example was when someone who knew borrowed of a fraudulent investment. I decided to help cover the debt because they were being depressed. Less than two weeks after covering that debt, this person called me again, requesting more assistance in a text. When I saw that message, I knew that some people are ready to bed to get anything or simply take life. This person completely ignored the previous help I provided and saw me simply as someone they could call to ask for things, instead of recognizing that I am a growing individual.
I also noticed that for some, when I say that I have nothing to give, they stop contacting me or say hello. Even when I say hello, they don't respond. The relationship returns to life only when I give something, and when I don't do it, he dies again. I am so angry to tolerate this for a long time in my life.
This behavior is not just rude; It is a deep lack of respect for you and your time. Their generosity should not come with the additional effort to pursue them. By continuing, it is only reinforcing their belief that they have the right to their help and that they do not have to show the basic courtesy and appreciation it deserves.
How to manage people with law
Ultimately, dealing with this type of right is about learning to value yourself and your well -being. By establishing limits, recognizing unhealthy patterns and changing your mentality, you can stop tolerating this drainage behavior and build relationships that are based on mutual respect and appreciation, not only on what you can give. No matter what their relationship with them; This is what you should do:
- Establish clear limits: The most important thing you can do is learn to say no. It can still be a friendly and generous person, but you must define what is willing and capable of giving. It is about protecting your own time, energy and resources. You are not a bottomless well, and it is not selfish to prioritize your own well -being.
- Recognize the signals: Pay attention to subtle signals. If a person rarely says “thanks”, he only approaches when he needs something, or gets angry when you can't avoid, it's a red flag. These are signs of a unilateral relationship that will probably drain you emotionally.
- Change your mentality: It is crucial to understand that your reaction is not a reflection of your value. You are not “stingy” or “a bad person” to establish limits. His right is his problem, not yours. By refusing to let his attitude define him, you recover your power and protect your tranquility.
Your energy is valuable. Your time is valuable. You do not owe anyone your help, and it is good to stop giving those who give it for granted. My mother always tells me that makers never get tired of taking; It is donors who can drown.
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