The Dark Side of Tipping Culture: When Rights Become Deadly

The Dark Side of Tipping Culture: When Rights Become Deadly


In my previous post I mentioned that it would be my last, but when I came across this news today, I felt compelled to share my thoughts.

In every country I've lived in, visiting restaurants has been one of the fun things I've enjoyed doing. I have never been forced to tip. Even in Ukraine, where I really enjoyed the services when I went out, a delivery driver or waiter never forced or talked down to me to tip. I did it at will. The same applies to my country, Hungary, and here in the UK. However, I know that experiences can differ from person to person.

When my friend traveled to the United States, she told me that the waiters and waiters looked at her badly and even asked her to tip them. He was about to leave a restaurant and a waiter asked him directly, “Where's my tip?” I was surprised when he said this had happened several times in different places. I was wondering: how are waiters allowed to harass customers like this and get away with it?

I'm not sure about US laws regarding tipping, but it is generally understood that tips are given as a way for customers to appreciate good service, simply by choice. There is no obligation.

Today, while browsing Instagram, I came across news of a case I had heard about before, but now I have all the details. Seeing the face of the lady who stabbed another human being for a two dollar tip was shocking. According to the media story, he made a delivery to someone staying at a motel and received a $2 tip. She left, but returned later with a man, forced his way into the person's room and stabbed him several times.

The woman who was stabbed discovered she was pregnant while receiving treatment at the hospital, according to NBC news. The 22-year-old woman who carried out the stabbing faces charges of attempted murder.

This tragic incident highlights a deeper problem within society, particularly among young people. A sense of entitlement and a lack of responsibility have led to alarming and destructive behavior. How is harming someone justified over a personal choice like tipping?

People who take delivery or service jobs made that decision, no one forced them. Even if someone feels forced by circumstances, they choose to work because only those of working age can do those jobs. Whether it's a high-paying job or not, everyone is going through this difficult economy. We are all struggling, so there is no excuse for being entitled.

There are many things that some waiters, bartenders, and delivery drivers don't recognize when they are adults:

  1. Not everyone who picks up a delivery places the order themselves. Some are collecting food for someone else who did not include a tip because it is not mandatory.

  2. Some people are sick, old or barely surviving on their pensions. They may only order food occasionally to avoid cooking, but they simply don't have the extra money to tip.

  3. Some people just don't want to tip, and that's perfectly fine.

  4. Entitlement is the root of greed. Expecting people to keep money for you creates a mindset that could lead to theft and, as seen in this case, even violence. Greed and entitlement together are a dangerous mix.

  5. Some people really can't afford to tip. These are difficult times and not everyone can afford to have extra money.

  6. Some people are just having a bad day. They may not be in the mood to give anything, and that's okay.

  7. The tipping culture varies between countries. In some cultures, tipping is not expected or common practice. Expecting everyone to follow the same rules is unreasonable.

  8. The cost of the service is already included for some people. Some assume that when they pay for food or delivery, the entire cost, including service, is already covered.

  9. A tip is a reward, not a right. It should be viewed as a bonus for exceptional service, not something owed simply because someone is doing their job.

  10. Respect for clients is key. Harassing or shaming someone for not tipping doesn't earn you sympathy; it alienates people and creates a hostile environment.

  11. There are people who haven't eaten pizza or something like that in months, and maybe it's their birthday, and they want to treat themselves with the little they have.

Now before anyone starts blaming mental illness, this is an adult who knew exactly what she was doing. This wasn't about mental health: it was about greed, privilege, evil and cruelty, plain and simple. Society must stop making excuses. Nobody's life is perfect. We all face challenges in this world and every path we take has consequences, good or bad.

This behavior is a pure reflection of greed, entitlement, evil, and a lack of basic humanity. I hope the victim gets the justice she deserves because what kind of world do we live in? Imagine ordering food and someone stabs you because they weren't happy with the tip. It's crazy.

I know many parents are doing the best they can, but this is a reminder to guide your children diligently. Work hard during their formative years, when you can still shape their character and instill good values. Keep an eye on their friends, the places they visit and their activities. While you can't always be with them, your influence during childhood and adolescence can have a lasting impact. Even when they are adults, your guidance and support is still important. Without proper education, children can fall into harmful influences or follow wrong social norms. The consequences of these decisions can be serious and life-altering.

This reminds me of what the Bible says about the end times. In 2 Timothy 3:1–5warns:

“But understand this, that in the last days times of trouble will come. For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, arrogant, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, ungodly, heartless, unbearable, slanderers, without self-controlled, brutal, not loving what is good, treacherous, reckless, puffed up with vanity, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God, who have a form of godliness, but deny its power. “Avoid such people.”

Furthermore, in Matthew 24:12says, because As evil increases, the love of the many will grow cold.”

These are sobering reminders of the state of the world today and where we are headed. Let us take a moment to reflect on our actions, realign our values, and strive for a better humanity, a humanity where respect, kindness, and responsibility guide our behavior.

Photo by Norma Mortenson



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